a NEW photo of my week and a short Sunday sermon

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Happy Sunday!  These blackberries were so lovely, I had to take a pic before I devoured them.  Yum!  My main camera seems to be busted! :o(   Sad! So, I’ll be taking phone pics and some from a camera I bought off my son until I get a new one (or my old one fixed).  Hopefully that will happen soon because we have a trip coming up that I really want it for!

Anyway… for today’s sermon:  Why Marriage, Why Family is the chosen (wonderful) talk I’m sharing…because yesterday was hubby’s and my anniversary.  We celebrated by spending some time together (kind of hard to find time for lately!)…nice dinner etc.  In the talk I learned about Dietrich Bonhoeffer, a German theologian born in 1906 who was critical of the Nazi dictatorship and put in prison.  Some letters from prison have been published and here’s part of one he wrote to his niece:

“Marriage is more than your love for each other. … In your love you see only your two selves in the world, but in marriage you are a link in the chain of the generations, which God causes to come and to pass away to his glory, and calls into his kingdom. In your love you see only the heaven of your own happiness, but in marriage you are placed at a post of responsibility towards the world and mankind. Your love is your own private possession, but marriage is more than something personal—it is a status, an office. Just as it is the crown, and not merely the will to rule, that makes the king, so it is marriage, and not merely your love for each other, that joins you together in the sight of God and man. … So love comes from you, but marriage from above, from God.”

I think I’ll have to put that book on my reading list:  (Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison, ed. Eberhard Bethge (1953), 42–43.)

Have a fabulous Sabbath!  Do or learn something NEW!

 

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Miscellaneous Monday…NEW stuff i gotta share (part 2)

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Happy Monday (again)! I think this may be the very first time I’ve ever posted twice in one day – but don’t worry, I don’t think it’ll become a habit. :o)  This little Fijian boy captured my full attention when this boat sailed by at the Polynesian Cultural Center.  I had to snap as many pics as I could of him. SO cute! Right?  I read up on Fijian families and traditions {here}.  The wiki article explained the Fijian kinship system and the respect they have for different relationships. I thought of how mutual respect in all relationships is essential…especially in marriage relationships. I thought of my own marriage as well as marriages of people around me, that I love.  Sometimes it can be so hard!

Although I’ve posted about my terrific hubby {here, here and here…to link just a few}, it doesn’t mean we haven’t had our ups and downs. But I’m so grateful we stuck it through the bad times and worked hard to strengthen our marriage, because I have friends and family members who didn’t do the hard work and now I can tell (I know!) they wished they would have!  So – I thought I’d document a few of the lessons I’ve learned through the years:

I heard once the formula for a happy marriage is…

Choose your spouse wisely…then treat kindly.

Overly simplistic?  Maybe, but kindness is HUGE! I’ve learned that I can’t change my spouse….all I can do is change myself.  But I’ve learned that when I am kind, I get kindness in return.  When I am loving, I get love in return.  Now, that IS pretty simplistic, right?  But it works.

I’ve learned that my spouse is not a mind-reader. (dang it!)  If I have needs, I’ve got to communicate those needs (in a loving manner).

I’ve learned that professional counselors can do a lot of good. BUT…not all counselors are created equal!  I know some that are worthless…I mean, very ineffective.  Get recommendations and get appointments with the best…then be humble and teachable…learn some new skills and implement them in your relationships.

I’ve learned that sometimes I’ve just gotta bite my tongue.  Not everything I think has to come out of my mouth.

I’ve learned that I’m usually right (my opinions are typically spot on!!! :o)…but I don’t have to tell the world that I know I’m right. Sometimes, others can think their opinions matter. And that’s OK, most of the time!

I’ve learned to make my marriage relationship a priority.  No other relationship matters more to me…and who I choose to spend my time with reflects this priority.  Seldom does anything trump our date night.  Although, we didn’t always have a specific date night, when I explained to my dear hubby that it was important to me, he made it happen.  We implemented it and it has been a reminder to both of us that our marriage is important.  Plus we get to play together.  Most of our dates are fun and studies have shown that having fun together increases your love quotient.  Just remember the fun dates you had when you started “courting”!  What happened? You fell in love!

I’ve learned many, many more things, but those might have to wait for another blog post, another day. So…go and do or learn something NEW….and if you’re married – you have my sincere hope that it is a very happy relationship.  If not…WORK HARD…and make it so that it is.  It can be done!

 

 

Miscellaneous Monday…NEW stuff i gotta share

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My children think VERY HIGHLY of the chocolate chip cookie recipe I received from a friend years and years and years ago!  Once someone offered my young son a “Mrs Field’s Cookie” and he asked it if was as good as a Dianne Larsen cookie!  Here’s the recipe:

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I saw this YouTube video quite a while ago, but it still makes me smile!  I want to have fun times like this with my husband when we’re old and gray…..(well, older and more gray!)

AND lastly, I recently learned of a website where people could take a quiz and learn what their ‘Love Language’ is {HERE is the link}.  I remember reading The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and liking it, so I took the quiz.  It was a HARD quiz!!!  You have to choose between two really good options on each question!  But I think I’ll have my hubby take the quiz (because I don’t think I’ll be able to get him to read the book)….but it’ll be good to know his love language (Words of Affirmation, Quality Time,  Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service or Physical Touch) so I can better cater to his needs.  By the way, at the first of the quiz, it asks for name and email address, but if you proceed, you can take it without giving any personal info.  (nice huh?)

Have a GREAT Monday!  Do or Learn something NEW!

 

 

a few days away….with NEW experiences

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Well, I’m back!  My hubby and I took a couple of days and got away for our anniversary.

I REALLY enjoyed our get-away because we did a nice variety of things!  Let’s see…we started out with one of our favorite things to do together….we played racquetball (physical), we attended the temple (spiritual), went out to lunch and dinner (ummm, probably another physical, but could be emotional or social?), we toured an exhibit at a museum of the Dead Sea Scrolls (educational), we stayed at a romantic bed and breakfast (emotional?), took a long walk/hike up a canyon trail (physical), went to a NEW theater and saw a funny parody of Phantom of the Opera (social?….or physical because our bellies ached from laughing?)….to name a few of our NEW, fun experiences.

But we’re back to our daily routines now.  It’s always good to get away, but just as nice to come home again!  Happy Friday!  Do or Learn something NEW!!!

family communication and a NEW funny video

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How is the communication in your family? Typically, at our house, ours is pretty average…meaning we could do better but we could also do a lot worse 🙂 BUT…on two difference occasions this week I was quite irritated with a couple of my family members! I had to ‘read through the lines’ to know what was going on…and even then, I was just guessing because these two individuals did NOT effectively communicate. I won’t bore you with the details, but one good thing about having ”issues” now and again is the side-effect of trying to do a better job at communicating….so we definitely had our little reminder this week!

It’s funny that this same week, my husband sent me a link to this YouTube video! I thought it was quite ironic because of the week I had with our ‘communication issues :o)!

Check this video out….it’s PRETTY FUNNY! I LOL! 🙂 Have a great day everyone and DO or LEARN something NEW!

a NEW Couples Gratitude Journal

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Some time ago I saw this on pinterest:

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…and thought it was a really good idea, so I made a similar one.  For the last six months or so, my dear husband and I have been writing reasons why we love each other and then ERASING those reasons each time one of us would write something NEW!  The other day, I thought that was craziness!….so I came up with a NEW system:

A COUPLE’S GRATITUDE JOURNAL!!!

Now…instead of using an erasable board, we will use this:

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…then periodically I’ll glue the papers into our gratitude journal!  MUCH BETTER!!!!

Details:  For the journal, I covered a composition book from the dollar store (see TONS of great ideas to cover journals on Pinterest {here}  For the ‘I Love You Because…’ board I just taped paper over a small, cheap (again from the dollar store) cookie sheet so we could use magnets.  One big clip holds the blank cards and the other clip will hold the written on cards until I have time to glue them into the journal.

I’ve loved my husband’s little notes to me the last few months…and now I know I’ll continue to love them as well as be able to keep and cherish them!

Sometimes nothing speaks louder than a silent word written on a piece of paper. David Lowenherz (source)

Linking to:

Not Just A Housewife

To Love Honor & Vacuum